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writelikeness (a tumblelog)So lets face it, at one time we have all been in love and swept off our feet across the mall area.
I’m not exactly sure what this list is supposed to mean—and I definitely don’t know how to concisely title it—but it has something to do with what you can get away with in certain mediums. Poems and songs can be merely depressing if they want to be, and they should be immediately heart-wrenching because they’re so short; it’s hard to get away with a full story that is all explicit in a short work. If it’s depressing, the hope is subtle and implicit—but it should still be there. And essay should always be hopeful; it’s stream-of-conscious that requires the fortitude of finding a good conclusion that ties the essay together and makes a full circle. Same with stories, generally, but they can have happy and sad endings. But there’s both rhyme and reason—poems have more rhyme; essays have more reason—but both have the responsibility of telling the truth of both finitude and infinitude. The stuff in the middle is the hard stuff to write: speeches and short stories. Makes sense, I think.
And there’s nothing wrong with my lifestyle no matter how many times I tell myself to “Breathe in, breathe in—hold it, hold it. Now, let it out.” […][—And this is how the cool boyfriend sits in the passenger seat of his girlfriend’s car. He’s looking at me. I wish the light would turn green and set me free. Teach my rolling veins: “Where there’s a will, there is a way.” Just cut me open and let me drain. // I’ll move to Florida. I’ll buy a brand new pick-up truck, and I’ll tint all the windows including the driver’s side. Now you can’t see me, so you can’t touch me when I sit at the red light and watch your boyfriend wonder if I’m inside / if I can get inside.]
I don’t know.
I know I like writing and editing. Editorial work is all right, but I’d rather be a janitor and just write on the side.
I want to write a memoir first, then try a short story collection. Then work on a novel, while I publish essays. But the novel would have to be heavily workshopped and edited. I’d go to grad school or whatever and do my best on it. Then I’ll finish the novel, and after that I’ll gather the best essays and do an essay collection.
Hopefully by then I’d be at a more interesting job. I could sellout in either direction: I’ll throw out all my #pomowo principles and work at a church; or I can write a screenplay if I get any good at story.
Whatever non-janitorial work I do, I’ll quit that job once I get out of my twenties and try to teach. Or at least work at a school. Something with younger people, where I’d still be a young gun. Find an old mentor and whatever.
And I want to teach high school kids English or math or something like that. I don’t care what. I’d go back to Culver City and bring a girl with me, hopefully. And teach kids how to be cool and how to swear effectively and be subtle and make Dean’s List without caring about it. I’ll be disappointed in them and they won’t like me, but they’ll learn a lot.
What seems harmless and natural, however, is neither. A culture in which older men value younger women more than their own female peers does damage to everyone.
I’m not talking about the harm inflicted by pedophiles on pre-teen girls, which is both monstrous and a given. I’m not talking about the vile street harassment of adolescents by older men, which is also as toxic as it is infuriatingly ubiquitous. This is about the way in which young women come of age surrounded by reminders that they are at their most desirable when they are still at their most uncertain and insecure. Some young women are attracted to older men (for a host of possible reasons), but even these find too many men who are, in the end, deeply unsafe.
It’s not just women who lose out as a consequence of this fixation on the older man, younger woman ideal. Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity. That callowness is often oversold by too many aging Lotharios wanting to emphasize the difference between their own supposed expertise and young men’s clumsiness. The reality is that just as many young women “grow up too quickly” as a result of older men’s attention, many young men grow up too slowly because of a lack of it.
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